Doulas help you in ways you maybe can’t even imagine yet!

Posted by: on Mar 28, 2019 | No Comments

Why would you need a doula? What do they do? To give you an idea, I’ve written a list of some of the many ways I have supported parents in the birth room and in the hours and days immediately afterwards.

Over the years I’ve….
…. encouraged mums verbally during pre-labour…. early labour… transition…. pushing stage……. birthing their placenta…. and before caesarean birth
…. held their hand when they hit super-intensity and thought they couldn’t do it any more (some using gas and air and some without any drugs)
…. rigged up their phone to play music in the birth room
…tied hair back of a mamas face into a ponytail
…. passed her water to sip throughout labour
… set up fairy lights to change the mood in the room from being stark, white and bright, to more relaxing and conducive to birth
…. rearranged the furniture in the room to help make maximise the space for optimal flow and movement
…. set up inflatable birth pool
…. helped fill the birth pool with water
…. helped drain and clean the birth pool
…. been a constant calm voice, no matter what was unfolding….
…. brought food and hot drinks to parents
…. carried bags from room to room or car to hospital and back to the car
…. parked their car for them so they could just walk into the hospital at the entrance and not have to cross a big carpark whilst having contractions
… held baby while mum had a blood transfusion
… calmed shaking dads down
…. been available at all times of day and night to process the birth, give breastfeeding support and keep mums company when they’re very tired but up feeding their baby at 3am
…. dug out baby clothes and nappies from mums overnight hospital bags or from around the house
…. held hands while canulas were inserted into mum’s arm
…. changed baby’s first nappy
…. helped baby to latch on for the first time and support a mum who was very weak after losing a lot of blood
… cleaned up blood… vomit… poo… amniotic fluid
… trodden on poo and cleaned it up silently!
…. scooped poo out of the birthpool using a sieve
…. kept an eye on the thermometer in the birth pool for temperature
…. located and liased with midwives to ensure birth ball was found out of the cupboard… and remote monitoring equipment was fully charged and ready for my client
… read stories to toddlers in hospital room alongside labouring mum
…. supported mum to walk to the toilet whilst hooked up to a monitor
…. bought dads a clean t-shirt and new pants from the local supermarket on day 3 in hospital
… gone home and fed the cat                                                                                                …. talked older children through the intense noises of labour so they understood that their mum was ok and safe and that what was happening was very normal

…. helped midwives prepare the placenta for refridgeration
…. helped mums to find better positions for comfort
… physically supported them to get in or out of the bath or birth pool
…. explained things using less medical terms and simpler language / translated from english into their own language if parents didn’t understand something
… bought parents time in non-urgent decision-making scenarios
… handed mums nightshirts, sanitary pads, knickers, snacks and other personal things out of their reach in their bag on the floor
…. stayed with mum so dad could go home and get some sleep after a very long night… and be with his other children or feed pets etc
…. held babies while their mum had 20 or 40 winks…
… held baby while mums had a shower….
…. brought home-cooked food for the freezer or to eat straight away (to save parents cooking)
… travelled in an ambulance during homebirth transfer with mum and comforted her on the journey whilst husband drove in car behind
… cooked parents a hot meal in their home
…. caught a baby because the midwife got lost and didn’t arrive in time!!!
…. asked anaesthetists to be more considerate in applying cannulas (please can you wait til she isn’t having a contraction before you stab her in the arm with that needle!)
…. tidied up and put the room back to normal after homebirths, made up beds with fresh bedsheets
…. given love to all in the family and kept them in a positive bubble
…. massaged mums feet and lower legs before and after birth
…. taken pics of the labour and birth on parents request
…. renewed car parking tickets so the dad didn’t have to go and be away from their partner at a really awkward moment when she really needed his strength and support
…. gave parents encouragement to trust their instincts and follow them
…. belly laughed, cried and shared confidences                                                                  …. washed up and cooked breakfast                                                                                      …. closed bones                                                                                                                            …. massaged mums back well past the point where I felt my arms would surely drop off
…. and more!